5 Ways to Handle Defeat
Thomas A. Edison once said, 'I have not failed. I've just found 10000 ways that won't work.' Thomas Edison are able to see the bigger picture on what others may claim as a failure. In my life, I've experienced a lot of defeat - financially, emotionally, and mentally. But, I consciously try to find a way to learn from it. Each lack of success comes the ability to convince myself to refuse stagnation and move on.
The mantra of this website is to be who I needed when I was younger. In this blog post I will share some of the tips on how I handle the hard times.
1. Recognize the effort you are able to put in.
You are the most important person in your life. Never talk yourself down. Never make yourself the enemy. Pat yourself on the back for trying, starting, and believing in the first place. You are the hero of your life's narrative - write yourself a good role and story.
2. Recognize your own shortcomings.
Stop the blame game and take responsibility for your own actions. “A sign of wisdom and maturity is when you come to terms with the realization that your decisions cause your rewards and consequences. You are responsible for your life, and your ultimate success depends on the choices you make.” - Denis Waitley
3. Be grateful for the experience.
Trust the timing of your life. Your experience is something that will never be taken away from you. Good decisions comes from experience and experience comes from bad decisions! You will tell great stories out of your life's greatest adversities. Take the chill pill and charge to experience.
4. Analyze the effort, shortcomings, and experience, then find the learning.
As long as you learn, you win. Pablo Picasso said, "I am always doing that which I can not do, in order that I may learn how to do it." Nobody is born an expert, so allow yourself to learn first.
5. Get ready to persevere or move forward.
Be careful on how to handle defeat. Often times, the struggle is just a part of the success story. But you also need to recognize if the purpose is just for learning. Take time to step backward and analyze the situation in order to gain the proper wisdom to decide.
Defeat is inevitable, but not permanent. I think that the best way to handle defeat is to understand it. My greatest asset is perseverance, but I've also let go some of the important battles of my life in order to move forward. :)
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."