Discovering Lagom: The Swedish Art of Living a Balanced, Happy Life
I recently joined a wonderful Facebook group called The Hygge Nook, where people share photos of their everyday hygge. One of the members shared an Amazon link for a free book called Lagom: Not Too Little, Not Too Much: The Swedish Art of Living a Balanced, Happy Life. I got curious and immediately downloaded the book on my Kindle app. The book inspired me as much as my favorite The Little Book of Hygge: Danish Secrets to Happy Living. Here's some of my takeaways from the book.
1. Quality over Quantity
"To the rest of the world, lagom might be a way to describe that we don’t want to buy more than we use and when we do buy something consider the quality over quantity aspect. This can save you time and money in the long run. This goes for clothes and everything else as well, buy what you need and what you use and leave the rest."
2. Self-Preservation and Self-Care
"By settling for lagom they don’t take on more responsibilities than they are able to and doing so, they apply some sort of self-preservation and self-care. Use the time to do things you enjoy that creates happiness. Working constantly is not healthy for you, your mind or your family as your energy from work has been depleted. Applying moderation in your life will create happiness and can increase the amount of happiness already present in your life."
3. Being Social and Being Alone.
"It is true that the Swedish are keener on minding their own business than many others and contributes to their lagom lifestyle. They can chat with the person next to them, but they don’t because of value space and privacy. In these situations, lagom does not mean staying at the house, locking yourself inside and have scheduled time alone because that does not work. Instead, lagom is about being quiet while riding the bus or standing in line.Swedish people take care of their alone time. They spend time alone by themselves or with their family allowing the time to recover and recharge. Because being social can lead to frustration and exhaustion. On the other hand, if you are anti-social and prefer spending time alone, lagom might mean that you should put yourself out there more. Maybe create time to spend with friends, family, and others."
4. Making a Home
"When it comes to things, it is not better to have more. Filter out the furniture that is never used to eliminate the clutter and fill your home with decorations you love, and that brings you joy and happiness. Home is a place to relax, spend time with your family and escape from all your social engagements, work, and demands from people outside. Having a home that has things you love it can bring joy, confidence, and happiness to you and others around you. Having a cluttered home can be overwhelming, which can bring stress to your life instead of relaxation."
"Take a look at your life and what you really need, what you think you need, and how much of everything you need. Lagom is a lifestyle to achieve balance within yourself and in your life. Spending time with family and friends and enjoying hobbies and interests alone is important to your health and mind. Do everything well enough instead of striving for perfection; no one will thank you for working yourself hard than settling for a little less."
In a nutshell, Lagom is the cause of hygge living. It is making conscious decisions to live balanced life to protect our health and well-being. It is a way of life wherein you are in control of what you want in all aspects of your life - from the food you eat to the amount of time you spend for work and play. When you are in a state of lagom, life becomes so much easier and uncluttered, everything is in moderation! :)