5 Values I Learned From My Dad
Today, I decided to write a blog dedicated to my dad's 6th death anniversary. My fondest memory of him was our daily morning routine. Over breakfast, we eat together and discuss the daily news. Then, he would narrate stories about the life of saints on our way to school, "today is St.Francis of Assisi's Story!" he exclaims. This happened throughout my elementary and high school years, and I loved every second of it.
I have been missing dad for 6 years, milestones like college graduation and my upcoming wedding are no longer as happy as it should have been. But when you physically lose the person you really love, you have no choice but to live with the pain. My personal coping mechanism is thinking that he is alive and well, just living in a very nice and long vacation.
In this blog, I’d like to rekindle and share some of the greatest values that I learned from my dad, my greatest influence in life.
1. The Value of Good Education
He once told me that he will never be able to give our family excessive material wealth; but, he promised to provide us with quality education. For many years our family had to survive making ends meet, but my parents managed to send me and my siblings to exclusive schools and best colleges. His words influenced me enough to strive for a college scholarship after his passing.
I had a good foundation from home and was brought up in a good environment in school. Good education gave me access to the library and experience technology in learning. We may not have the means to buy our own, but we had everything that we need in order to learn. I learned from great teachers and made friends with nice and decent people. For that, I will forever be grateful to my dad.
2. The Value of Faith in God
There were moments when my search for knowledge and truth affected my faith in God. I would talk about my questions to papa and he would gladly and patiently enlighten me. The greatest forces in life exists just because it is. In business, they call it the Free Market, for Aristotle, the Prime Mover, and for us faithfuls, we call it God.
Dad also taught me to pray. Prayer is an effective form of meditation, especially if properly structured. In prayers, I am able to express my gratitude for my blessings, to acknowledge my deepest thoughts, and to look into the bad things that I have done and things that I have failed to do. I pray to bless myself, my loved ones, and the whole world to a loving and forgiving God.
3. The Value of Individuality
Papa never imposed his beliefs to anybody, but he was a great influence to many by his stories and actions. He always speak his mind, and was not afraid to share his wisdom to other people. He was a unique individual that belongs to the world.
As a dad, he literally encouraged every quirky idea that I had. Once upon a time, I was convinced that I was going to be a rock star, my dad went to Raon in the middle of the storm to buy me a 300 ft guitar cable. He said it was enough for a rock concert in Araneta. Growing up, I never felt the need to fit in. I was never ashamed for being my weird self because I know that dad will always be proud of me.
4. The Value of Family
My dad was a faithful husband to my mom. I never saw him drink, smoke, do drugs, or whatever overly unhealthy or illegal. He was a champion in terms of keeping our family together. In his last days, dad was sleeping with my mama's unwashed shirt - mama was staying in the US at that time. He sees mom as a very special gift from God. He values her as a wife, a mother, a woman of honor and dignity.
Dad has his own shortcomings, but he stood by us until his last breath. He showed me that honor, loyalty, and faithfulness is the recipe for a long and lasting marriage. He died with so much love from his wife and children because leaving his family was never an option to him.
5. The Value of Inner Peace
Papa used to be an Executive Auditor, working for big companies like international airlines. However, he was too righteous to practice his career in numbers. And so, he quit and decided to devote his life serving the Lord and helping the poor farmers. I used to think that it was a bad decision to sacrifice his career (and our family’s financial stability) for his beliefs and principles. Looking back, it was a matter of peace over money – and papa was wise enough to choose his inner peace.
I love my dad with all my heart, because he was a great dad. But moreover, I love him because I admire him, and I look up to him as someone with great honor, wisdom, and faith in God. Qualities that are difficult to manage these days.
To end this blog, I'd like to share this bible verse from his last journal entry:
"The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all;"
- Psalm 34:19
I guess dad's unworldly righteousness gave him early ticket of deliverance to the Lord. :)